Is it really Men's World?

Why do we create customs that destroy us? Which custom said that women alone should be given more attention so that men can marry them? And which law forbids men from getting more of home training because they are men? Please permit me to ask more.

Do male children not deserve to get more of home training to make them more responsible? Why do parents, especially mothers pay more attention to their female children when it comes to home training and character formation, neglecting their male children? As we train the female children to behave well, just for them to qualify for marriage, is it not also proper to pay even more attention to the male children that will marry the trained female ones, in order to balance the equation? Have we not confused our priorities?

The neglect of male children has caused so much harm in the society today; there are many beasts today instead of men. Majority of our leaders who have done much harm to the society are men, prisons are filled up with young and older men; women prisoners are few, there are many men today who are old enough to shoulder responsibilities, yet they are still mummy’s boy, some are even transforming themselves to women (transgender), we can go on and on. Women are taking to violence because they have learnt from men. I wonder what our society will turn out to be if things continue this way, because it will grow to worse.

I was inspired to talk about this after reading a tweet shared by Thembi Maphanga who has firsthand experience on how destructive and abusive man could be @thembeyakhe. It was reported at naij.com and it read: "I am not a rehabilitation center for a badly raised man; it is not my job to fix him, change him, parent him or raise him! I want a partner not a project! I deserve respect and love. I am not an object that can be owned, possessed or controlled. I value me.

Younger parents, especially mothers should please start correcting the mistakes of the older parents before things get out of hand. For us to enjoy safety, peace of mind, good governance, better homes, etc; male children should be given adequate home training and discipline, they should be taught to be responsible from their infant age, they deserve to be humans; they deserve to live a crime free life. Some say it is men’s world; some say it is women’s world, but Ideal Olive says it is our world and we have to make it better for all of us.

Written by Olive Chinyere Amajuoyi